SNOW! SO?


February 13, 2014

Snow and New York City are not a marriage made in heaven. Especially if you have a car, or a baby in a stroller, a cart for grocery shopping, a cane or a walker for support. So how do we New Yorkers deal with it? We cuss and we curse and we growl, and we growl a lot! Except…if you’re a kid. The kids in the street, in the playgrounds, giggling, gushing, cooing with delight, just kick it, roll in it, bury themselves in it, snatch it up, throw it at someone, and erect obese snowmen, while their parents yell, “Stop it!" "Don’t do that." "Get out of there you’ll freeze to death.”

And after a few days, when the snow looses its heavenliness, and becomes a dirty dark mess of slush, and if you’re lucky enough that the snow fell around the Chinese New Year, make your way down to Chinatown to see the prettiest snow on the streets, scattered with sparkling, dazzling, shimmering radiant colors of red blue, purple green, gold, glimmering confetti that showered the New Year festivities and now blankets the snow covered streets.

“TEARS AND LAUGHTER”


It’s been a year since I last posted, a year since mom began to get ill. I knew she’d get better and put all my attention on making it happen. Mothers don’t pass away. My mother has always been in my life, no matter where I was I knew where to find her, she was a constant I could count on, so I knew this illness would pass. It didn’t matter she was almost 91, she was my ageless mother, with flaming red hair, an adorable body and a youthful attitude. As I cared for her, I lost interest in writing, in discovering the interesting, intriguing, humorous about this place where I now lived. All I wanted was a healthy mother with whom I could enjoy this city. And she did get better, after four days in the hospital and a few weeks at home. And then she grew ill again, and was less and less available, by then it didn’t matter what city I was in.

I didn’t know, until my mother’s death, what impact it would have on me. I haven’t written, I haven’t wanted to write; it all seemed so inconsequential, until few days ago.

I was looking for a tailor on the Upper East Side that I had read about, and suddenly I heard a whistle, the kind we associate with construction men admiring pretty young women. And then I heard it again.  I couldn’t help but to smile, it had been a long time since I was a recipient. As I continued up the street in search of the tailor, instead of seeing a construction crew, outside a hair salon was a rather sizeable bird cage housing two large and beautiful multi-colored parrots who seemed to be having as much fun whistling as I was listening to them. For a moment I forgot my sadness and remembered how unique New York is, how creative the people who live here are, and remembered why I even thought I could fall back in love with this city, and write about it in this blog.

New York, New York, what a wonder full town! 

NY THROUGH ROSE COLORED GLASSES


The operator at the call center and the Queens Blvd. traffic noise were doing battle with each other, while I desperately attempted to get directions to the storage company, supposedly only a few blocks away. In exasperation I decided, “FORGET IT, “ and wished I could have slammed down the receiver, but on a cell phone, there isn’t one. “The red building should be on your right, and the college on the left,” the operator insisted. “Impossible! Something’s wrong here, the red building’s on the left and behind me which leads me back to where I just came from and there’s no storage company in that direction.”  The operator repeated, “I’m looking at your location and all you have to do is turn around.” I turned around, saw no red building in sight and gave up exhausted. After walking in circles, asking others who seemed to be just as lost, thanks to a UPS truck driver who knew the area, I found my way a few minutes later. With clear directions, I discovered Starr Street, a tiny alley way hidden from view. I arrived at my destination, wondering why getting there had been so difficult, given the call center should have been able to direct me. Heading back home that evening, while the sun descended in the sky, I clearly saw the culprit. Two different buildings of a red hue were the problem. One building I would have considered to be...pale pink, while the other, clearly red, but seen from a call center on a computer screen in Georgia must have looked completely different than standing on a bustling New York city street corner!

Everything you’ve ever wanted is somewhere in this amazing city, you just have to find it!!

SPRING 3/10/12

The streets of New York, the buses, the subways, all filled with beautiful colors, chocolate brown, ruddy red, beige, ivory white; the colors of  South America, Scandinavia, Africa, China; the colorful sounds of Trinidad, Israel, Ireland, India, Russia, Asia. The rhythmic colors of clothes, of hair, of skin. of style. New York, an experience I have had no where else in the world. And now, with the coming of Spring and the shedding of winter garb, prepare to be delighted, amused, surprised, in awe of who we are!!!

HANDS ACROSS AMERICA - MAY 25, 1986

On the supple cushy cushions that replaced the customary firm, unyielding bus seats, I burrowed into my sleeping bag and stretching out my tired body, closed my eyes to nap. It didn’t matter that my toes touched someone nearby, that my back accidentally rubbed up against an other. I tried to make myself a little smaller as I fell off to sleep smiling. It was an intimacy that no one minded and we had begun to enjoy.


It was Day 2, traveling by bus from San Francisco to Southern California, heading for the desert of Palm Springs to hold the hand of someone we had never met and to join “the line.” “The line” as Hands Across America became known, was an unprecedented opportunity for national intimacy; an opportunity to express our shared commitment by holding the hand of another, and all we knew about that person was their common desire to end hunger in the world.  Our line, would be only one among the thousands reaching across the United States.

And when we finally arrived, the desert was quiet, empty, and dry. We were told to watch out for rattlesnakes in the brush, no one told us what to do if we stepped on one. We were city people, come down from the North to participate in something that had never been done before. The pioneer in each one of us, had been awakened, we had a cause again. Rattlesnakes and intense heat were of little threat. The real fear was – would there be enough hands to hold, to keep the line unbroken, to demonstrate our commitment. There was a sense of desperation in the air, a need that people had traveled hundreds of miles to satisfy, the need to connect, to hold a hand, which held another’s, the need to belong, to be a member, if only for a moment, of a community called “Hands Across America.”

There were some in the line who wanted to be counted, who wanted to be part of history, yet not comfortable with the intimacy; they extended their hands, but their eyes said, “Don’t touch!” I heard a fellow, when asked to take the hand of the guy along side him, respond, “I’ll do it my way.” No surprise, “I’ll do it my way” has always been the mantra of us Americans, and that day was no different. They brought balloons, banners, photos of friends and family members who couldn’t be there, and tied string around their wrists, attaching themselves to another person further down the road, when there just weren’t enough hands to cover the distance.

That connection lasted only twenty minutes, not counting the years of preparation, not counting the hours and for some, days of travel. Twenty minutes of May 25, 1986, standing for the end of hunger, holding a hand that held a hand across thousands of miles, a brief, remarkable moment in time!

Chinese Herbs to the Rescue


My major accomplishment today was to finish drinking an 8 oz. cup of tea. It took me about an hour, slowly sipping and wishing I didn’t have to. With each sip I held my nose so as not to taste this earthy brew of twigs, barks and spices.

I’d been having a hard time waking in the morning, getting out of bed and enthusiastically taking on the day. And once up I had been dragging my butt, barely able to get through the day without taking naps. So my brother invited me to join him on one of his weekly sojourns to Chinatown, to an herbal shop where he sits on a folding chair in the back of the shop, sticks out his tongue, leans over the table and hands his wrist to the 80 something year old doctor, who then determines what concoction of herbs and barks would make the difference in my brother’s well-being. I took my brother up on his offer, took the subway downtown to Canal Street, the Chinatown of New York City, and after having the most delicious, nurturing bowl of hot noodle soup with vegetables at a local Chinese restaurant, we walked over to the herb shop, avoiding all the luscious looking baked goods in the windows on the way. 15 minutes after sticking out my tongue and extending my wrist across the table, the doctor scribbled out a multi-columned prescription made up of mystifying characters and handed it to the herbalist. I watched as she meticulously laid out, one large piece of white butcher paper for each day of the week, and proceeded to pile up strange, fascinating and beautiful dried pieces of bark, seeds, pods, spices, a witch’s brew, all to be steeped and boiled for an hour and a half on a low flame, and then gobbled down before bedtime. On the first night of preparing this brew, I looked into the pot, barely able to approach it, “Bubble, bubble, broil and trouble,” yes, the trouble had begun as my mother approached the kitchen yelling, “What the hell are you cooking in there? Get that out of my kitchen, you’ll have to find another place to make whatever that crazy doctor told you to do. I can’t take it.” Frankly, neither could I but I had to. And so upstairs my boiling pot and I went, to my brother’s who’d been brewing his own prescribed concoction for a couple of weeks, pleading with him to let me use his stove. He had grown used to the aromas by then, felt so much better himself, and wanting to make sure I’d drink the infusion, offered to be my cook for the next six nights, officially becoming my partner in healing!

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Mourning begets Gratitude

How can I fall in love with New York City when I have climbed the hills of Switzerland, when I have camped in the Pyrenees Mountains, walked along the Adriatic Coast, hiked Mt. Tamalpais, walked amongst the grapes in Sonoma County, picked oranges in Israel, when I have skied the slopes of Austria, seen the temples of India, got lost and found in Denver’s Rocky Mountains?? I struggle to find peace and pleasure here in this metropolis. My eyes fall upon supermarkets, gourmet food shops, clothing stores, restaurants, fast food shops, coffee shops, hairdressers, manicurists, more restaurants one after the other never ending. And then there is Central Park, thank goodness. Yet my eyes, my nose, long for the beauty of the unaltered, untamppered with physical world, of multi-colored nature. Nothing nurtures me more than looking out into fields of green, visiting with my eyes, hills too steep to climb, forests too thick to visit, while breathing deeply the fresh, wholesome air of dormant Mother Nature.


Japan awakens in me gratitude. I am grateful for New York, its polluted air and all that displeases me.